by Nancy | Jan 13, 2019 | Commitment, Communication Skills, Conflict, Encouragement, Habit Change, Problem Solving
Recently a respected friend suggested I read Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, Ph.D. I ordered it. It came. When I thumbed through it and discovered many pages of small print, I set it aside. “Not now. Maybe later.” Yesterday I opened it to...
by Nancy | Oct 9, 2018 | Commitment, Communication Skills, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Respectful Behaviors
There are several categories of a committed relationship. The first one I think of is 1) a marriage. But there are others, like 2) a business partnership, and 3) the relationship of a parent and child. There are several categories of costs: 1) Staying in the...
by Nancy | Oct 9, 2018 | Communication Skills, Conflict, Problem Solving
This is the one that triggers instant anger, simmering resentfulness, and eventually feelings of hopelessness about the quality of your relationship. On the surface each of you wants the issue resolved YOUR way…the BEST way! Right? When I tell my couples that...
by Nancy | Sep 20, 2018 | Communication Skills, Conflict, Problem Solving
Who in the world ever suggests that? Who would want that? Fights are exhausting. It takes time to recover your balance. It feeds emotional separation. It rarely results in a lasting solution. Yet how often are you fighting with your beloved? Or, on the other...
by Nancy | Sep 4, 2018 | Communication Skills, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Soul Mates
For a few agonizing moments, that option was on the table for my late husband Jim and me. It felt like a bottomless chasm had opened up in front of us…one that if we didn’t find a way over, would swallow us and our family whole. The fighting was endless. The pain...
by Nancy | Aug 14, 2018 | Commitment, Communication Skills, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Stepfamilies, stepfamily strategies, Uncategorized
This is one of the most inspiring step-couple stories I know of. Although it’s long, the drama of their experience will grip you and not let you go until you get to the end… Gavin and Pamela first met in the 5th grade in 1980 and quickly became best...
