by Nancy | Dec 12, 2023 | Uncategorized
The Inner Critic We all live with some version of an Inner Critic. I’ve dubbed mine “Helga” because that name brings to my mind a tough prison guard, which Helga likes to think she is. (My apologies to anyone named Helga!) She likes to think she’s in...
by Nancy | Dec 5, 2023 | Uncategorized
Independence is a Worthy Goal “Do it myself!” is a familiar cry to the parents of any toddler. It’s the demand of a healthy child who is eager to learn. Gradually gaining independence is the goal that healthy parents want for their child.Independence is...
by Nancy | Nov 28, 2023 | Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Respectful Behaviors, Uncategorized
An Example I’ve taught several classes with my friends Ken and Irma. I once looked at Ken and thought, “He looks angry. I wonder if I’ve done something he’s unhappy about. Maybe he thought my part of the presentation wasn’t very good.” (Do...
by Nancy | Nov 21, 2023 | Communication Skills, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Respectful Behaviors, Uncategorized
I heard Dr. Phil say, “Choose the behavior. Choose the consequences!” It reminded me of the saying, “Commit the crime. Do the time!” Communication habits predictably cause emotional distance or connection. Over time, emotional...
by Nancy | Nov 14, 2023 | Uncategorized
Learning where my responsibilities end and another person’s begin has been a life-long curriculum for me. The learning began in my late-twenties when I hired a carpenter to build some cabinets in my sewing room. The first few days he was...
by Nancy | Nov 7, 2023 | Communication Skills, Encouragement, Listening, Soul Mates, Uncategorized
I once had a neighbor who came from across the street and said, “I’m curious… I see couples pull up in front of your house fighting and crying and a few hours later they get in the car and spend a few minutes hugging and kissing before leaving. What do you...
