by Nancy | Jan 9, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Uncategorized
Rather than seeing conflict as part of growing the relationship, we tend to blame the person with whom we’re in conflict. “If he wouldn’t _____, then I wouldn’t ______. If she would just _____, then we’d be happy.” Blame, not conflict, is relationship cancer. ...
by Nancy | Jan 2, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
I have a friend who is a passionate advocate for animal adoption. She calls a good adoption as “finding the animal’s Furrever Home!” Falling in love feels like finding a “forever home.” You found the missing piece of yourself…you feel whole for the first time in...
by Nancy | Dec 5, 2017 | Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving
Remember the opening lines of Fiddler on the Roof? Tevya singing, “TRADITION! TRADITION!” Traditions serve such a valuable service to our cultures and our families. They provide something to depend on when other things in life may be shaky. The repetition of them...
by Nancy | Oct 24, 2017 | Appreciation, Encouragement, Habit Change
The Art of Expressing Gratitude This is Week #2 in my Radical Gratitude Challenge. Last week I challenged you to express gratitude to your partner. And, if necessary, work at it, dig around a little, but find things for which you can express appreciation face to...
by Nancy | Oct 10, 2017 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
“To others we look good. We have good jobs. Our children are reasonably well behaved. We live in a decent neighborhood. We even attend church regularly. We are clean, hair styled, clothes presentable. We look like–and have even been told–we are...
by Nancy | Jul 23, 2017 | Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving
Unhappy with your marriage? Have the same fight over and over again? Has romance become more of a dry business arrangement? It’s not your fault! For centuries whether or not a marriage was “good” for both partners (meaning loving) was largely a matter of luck. If...
