by Nancy | Jun 28, 2018 | Communication Skills, Conflict, Habit Change
The movie starring Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell has made the term, Groundhog Day, a metaphor for anything that happens over and over again with confusing, agonizing dependability. Could this be true of your marriage? Are you having the same argument over and over...
by Nancy | Feb 27, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Respectful Behaviors, Uncategorized
When my marriage to my late husband Jim was in jeopardy, at some level I knew that my sarcastic put-downs and yelling were not helping resolve our conflict. But it wasn’t until a great coach began to teach us some basic communication and anger management skills that...
by Nancy | Feb 6, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change, Uncategorized
Valentine’s Day is coming. Our attention is drawn to loving relationships, especially romantic ones. Everyone I’ve ever asked wants a happy, loving, intimate relationship with the love of his or her life. That dream seems to be loaded into our DNA, tattooed on our...
by Nancy | Jan 26, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
Sometimes the most painful, agonizing experiences of our lives happen to us. Not that we asked for them, or even caused them, but a new, unwanted life is dropped on us like a ton of bricks. That happened to me when my first husband died unexpectedly. I was...
by Nancy | Jan 9, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Uncategorized
Rather than seeing conflict as part of growing the relationship, we tend to blame the person with whom we’re in conflict. “If he wouldn’t _____, then I wouldn’t ______. If she would just _____, then we’d be happy.” Blame, not conflict, is relationship cancer. ...
by Nancy | Jan 2, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
I have a friend who is a passionate advocate for animal adoption. She calls a good adoption as “finding the animal’s Furrever Home!” Falling in love feels like finding a “forever home.” You found the missing piece of yourself…you feel whole for the first time in...
