by Nancy | Feb 6, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change, Uncategorized
Valentine’s Day is coming. Our attention is drawn to loving relationships, especially romantic ones. Everyone I’ve ever asked wants a happy, loving, intimate relationship with the love of his or her life. That dream seems to be loaded into our DNA, tattooed on our...
by Nancy | Jan 26, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
Sometimes the most painful, agonizing experiences of our lives happen to us. Not that we asked for them, or even caused them, but a new, unwanted life is dropped on us like a ton of bricks. That happened to me when my first husband died unexpectedly. I was...
by Nancy | Jan 9, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving, Uncategorized
Rather than seeing conflict as part of growing the relationship, we tend to blame the person with whom we’re in conflict. “If he wouldn’t _____, then I wouldn’t ______. If she would just _____, then we’d be happy.” Blame, not conflict, is relationship cancer. ...
by Nancy | Jan 2, 2018 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
I have a friend who is a passionate advocate for animal adoption. She calls a good adoption as “finding the animal’s Furrever Home!” Falling in love feels like finding a “forever home.” You found the missing piece of yourself…you feel whole for the first time in...
by Nancy | Dec 5, 2017 | Conflict, Habit Change, Problem Solving
Remember the opening lines of Fiddler on the Roof? Tevya singing, “TRADITION! TRADITION!” Traditions serve such a valuable service to our cultures and our families. They provide something to depend on when other things in life may be shaky. The repetition of them...
by Nancy | Oct 10, 2017 | Commitment, Conflict, Habit Change
“To others we look good. We have good jobs. Our children are reasonably well behaved. We live in a decent neighborhood. We even attend church regularly. We are clean, hair styled, clothes presentable. We look like–and have even been told–we are...
