Radical Gratitude Challenge #5 – The Harvest of Gratitude
My first husband died when I was twenty-three years old. We had two baby boys. I was not very thankful. It took about five years to pull out of the pit of depression and readjust my life around this new reality.
I wanted to remarry. I didn’t want to be alone forever. I heard a special speaker talk about being thankful for what we have even before it arrives…especially before it arrives! So I made myself a lacy nightie and hung it in the closet, waiting for that special Someone who would be my lover and partner in life.
Years went by. I occasionally thought of giving that nightie to the GoodWill with other items no longer of use to me. But I just couldn’t let go of the dream.
I met Jim. We fell in love. That magical night came when I told Jim the story of my Belief Nightie and wore it for him.
The perfect dream became a nightmare of conflict. I speak a lot of this in other places, but it’s enough to say that I thought, at times, I’d made a terrible mistake. Whenever I could, I summoned up the grit to be grateful for whatever good might come out of our pain.
We eventually found the help we needed. We learned and practiced new communication skills. We resolved our conflicts. Our love returned. And then we really FELT THANKFUL!
A few years later Jim suggested that we begin teaching classes to other couples who needed to know what we had learned. How to Stay Married & Love It! was born!
And the rest, as is said, is history. The dream of my childhood to have a happy, loving marriage was fulfilled. The dreams of speaking and writing books to help others have happy, loving marriages has been, and is still being fulfilled.
What circumstance are you experiencing right now that seems impossible for which to be thankful? What really stinks about your marriage, your family, your health, your finances? What if an amazing chapter is being written in your future that you can’t see right now? Can you be grateful now, as an act of faith? I believe you can…
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I love this story Nancy! I’m glad you got to wear the “lacy Nightie”!! AND…I am grateful with you for all that has evolved since then!